OL Kirk Barton (Don't tase me Bro!)
- By Mike80
- Fake or Disgraced Buckeye Alumni
- 560 Replies
I get where you're coming from. Totally. I've stepped in two different times for people who needed to be helped. It's not easy and it can be very awkward. It even cost me a friendship from high school in one case, but the individual got the help he needed.I’ve been thinking about this tragic story off and on all day. As I said previously, I have dined with KB probably 4 or 5 times and happened to be on a flight to Vegas with him once by coincidence. We had mutual business contacts and partners. I also noticed his drinking problem and thought it basically confirmed what internet folks said he was like. But I actually witnessed it. And when I started tuning into his YouTube cast nightly around CFB playoff time and for the Michigan scandal updates, I saw that he definitely had a problem airing 2 casts in a row sober.
Then I decided I was going to approach him at one of the next dinners I had with him in attendance and ask him if he thought he had a drinking problem. I was going to try to intervene even though we’re definitely not friends. I was more of an interested observer trying to prevent what just happened SAturday morning. Unfortunately, that next time never came.
I feel like shit because I did not intervene despite being only acquaintances. Of course I don’t know how he would have taken any intervention let alone one from a not-quite friend. People - it is our duty to our fellow citizens to try to intervene in some sort of way to prevent this. Don’t miss the opportunity to save a life.
But you can't do this to yourself. It's not fair and you don't deserve it.
The individuals I did it for were both friends and people I'd known personally for a while. As you said you and KB were passing acquaintances but not much beyond that. It sucks and I totally understand playing the "what-if" game, but you don't deserve the guilt you're putting yourself through.
KB had dozens (if not more) people in his life who have seen this for years/decades and it seems none of them stepped in that we know of - and if they did, point #2, KB brushed them off - meaning he didn't want the help or didn't see the problem. As has been stated, no matter what you do or how persuasive you can be, there's nothing to be done unless that individual wants to help themselves out.
It's an absolute tragedy this kid died. Two lives ended Saturday night. But none of that is on you man. There's nothing you could have done short of taking KB's keys Saturday night and preventing him from getting behind the wheel.