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This is off topic, but the large number of children seeking homes--not only in Michigan, but across the US--is a problem with the foster/adoption system. Foster families are treated as nothing more than outsourced orphanages by the state, while lots of families that want to adopt or foster-to-adopt children remain on waiting lists for years because social workers focus on what is best for the biological mother rather than the children. Meanwhile the social workers also demean the families looking to adopt if they don't fall into lock-step with their recommendations, especially the big one: keep the biological mother involved in the child's life.
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Not just my own experience--but yes, I have had some verbal spats in the last year as my wife and I looked into adoption--but the pain and anger (and unfortunately, damage to children) I have seen from other families that I know on both the fostering and adoption sides.
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Buckerooni
His soul was removed to make room for more stomach
Have been a foster parent for many years here in Ohio and yes, you are 100% correct. It is about parental rights, not about what is best for the child. I adopted two of my foster children and I outright refused to let the neglectful, abusive birth parents stay involved - though yes, there is pressure to do so from social workers and counselors . . . without an iota of proof that it is "best for the child," and lots of reason to believe it is terrible for them. One social worker admitted to me that the goal is re-unification - not permanency and not what's best for the child.
FYI: Attorney General DeWine's office recently completed a long term study that I thought came up with good findings and recommendations. So far, nothing has turned into law, though I sent him and my state rep a note of encouragement to try to make the needed changes happen - for whatever good it may do.
My adopted kids were in foster care 3 yrs before the state finally permanently terminated parental rights. It was not a fun three years, and there were many things that happened that made me furious for the kids' sake.
If you are trying to navigate this crazy system, I wish you much luck. You do have to have a lot of patience and an endless tolerance for ineptitude. I am glad I did it, but whew. It was hard.
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Taosman
Your Cousin In New Mexxico
400,000 children in the Foster Care System.
"I had about six foster homes, and all but one were physically and sexually abusive," she says.
http://www.npr.org/2013/09/22/225148325/foster-care-in-america-too-many-kids-not-enough-homes
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Taosman
Your Cousin In New Mexxico
Back to Jenner.
If he wasn't an American Olympic hero would anyone even care?
I don't have trouble separating that Olympic hero from the adult who is having a sex change.
Maybe more of the BP denizens should give that a try rather than criticize someone's life choice.
But I guess that would be asking too much of some here.
If he wasn't an American Olympic hero would anyone even care?
I don't have trouble separating that Olympic hero from the adult who is having a sex change.
Maybe more of the BP denizens should give that a try rather than criticize someone's life choice.
But I guess that would be asking too much of some here.
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So, being an Olympic athlete makes him less disturbed? Sorry, but any person who is so "confused" about his/her own body needs professional psychological help, not adulation...
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