Anyway, all the right-wing bloggers already hate my guts
for daring to suggest that infants are too young to have gender, so I'm just going to go ahead and say this: I
love the idea of 10-year-olds questioning their gender. Here's the thing about questioning your gender: It doesn't actually
change the way you feel inside, it just helps you look deep enough to know yourself best. The only reason we associate questioning with transition is because society punishes, so brutally, any variance from cis, that most people would avoid publicly revealing that they're questioning themselves. At least until and unless it became so painfully obvious that they are likely trans, that for them they just couldn't avoid it any more. Stan may be questioning his gender because he's been exposed to trans ideas, but that isn't going to
make him trans, unless he was already destined to be that way—in which case, it would only help him get there faster, earlier, and
much less painfully. Questioning is
good.
