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Moving in with Significant Other

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Being an efficient guy, may I recommend..............
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Woodchipper Massacre!
 
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martinss01;947512; said:
yes.

think of it as leasing. your definitely locked into an agreement that will not be painless to get out of. but, its the easiest way to get her to clean your house.

helpful hints.
rent/mortgage - your name only
power - your name only
phone - not your name (or just use cell phones - my personal preference)
don't share credit cards
don't share any form of debt
cosign for NOTHING

im on my second live in gf. there are definite advantages and disadvantages. but the absolute most critical thing is to absolutely under NO circumstances share bills. either you pay 100% of a bill, or she pays 100% of a bill. do not cosign for anything ever for any reason. make sure the lease agreement/home is in YOUR NAME ONLY. it has nothing to do with women running up a phone bill or men being irresponsible with bills or either side being vindictive/hateful. its just that things have a tendancy to change. should either of you begin to feel differently about the other, your priorities will rapidly move away from any form of financial obligation shared between the two of you. make certain that at the end of the day you have the necessities firmly in your control. you have a roof over your head, you have power, you have heat, you have running water. make sure all of these things are in YOUR name. you can live without a phone and mcdonalds is just down the street.
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My number one concern is being able to have a clean exit strategy. I've heard some stories that are the equivalent of the USSR's foray into Afghanistan
 
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Living together is the first real step to see if you guys are compatible. It's easy to seem like a great GF or BF if you only see each other at your best. When you live together you really get to see the good and the bad. I'd have to say that moving in together is a very big and important step to see if the two of you can co-exist and be happy at the same time. Good luck. :biggrin:
 
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martinss01;947512; said:
yes.

think of it as leasing. your definitely locked into an agreement that will not be painless to get out of. but, its the easiest way to get her to clean your house.

helpful hints.
rent/mortgage - your name only
power - your name only
phone - not your name (or just use cell phones - my personal preference)
don't share credit cards
don't share any form of debt
cosign for NOTHING

im on my second live in gf. there are definite advantages and disadvantages. but the absolute most critical thing is to absolutely under NO circumstances share bills. either you pay 100% of a bill, or she pays 100% of a bill. do not cosign for anything ever for any reason. make sure the lease agreement/home is in YOUR NAME ONLY. it has nothing to do with women running up a phone bill or men being irresponsible with bills or either side being vindictive/hateful. its just that things have a tendancy to change. should either of you begin to feel differently about the other, your priorities will rapidly move away from any form of financial obligation shared between the two of you. make certain that at the end of the day you have the necessities firmly in your control. you have a roof over your head, you have power, you have heat, you have running water. make sure all of these things are in YOUR name. you can live without a phone and mcdonalds is just down the street.
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Well,we lived together for 2 years got married & made almost 16 years of marriage until 6/30 he thought he could sneak out & leave but I caught him!
Nothing I did he said it,he does not feel the same anymore! So we just bought a house last year,both names on it! Since he bailed out I get to stay & he has to pay me around $1600 a month in spousal support.
A word to the wise, live together! Do pay your own bills & keep your own bank account!
 
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My wife and I never lived together and here's why.

We knew each other for 5 years before we were engaged (it was a long distance relationship for part of that time). I knew after we got married we would spend the rest of our lives together. Why the fucking hell would I want to ruin my independance by living with someone before I actually tied the knot? To me the runup to my marriage was like my senior year in high school- enjoy that last year.....live it up. It doesn't mean I went whoring around but I did take several road trips and hit the bars, etc and didn't need to ask for anyone's permission. I acted like a dude - you know, fly by the seat of your pants, work hard, play hard etc.

Just my .02
 
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ekeen;948145; said:
live it up, It doesn't mean I went whoring around but I did take several road trips and hit the bars, etc and didn't need to ask for anyone's permission. I acted like a dude - you know, fly by the seat of your pants, work hard, play hard etc.

Just my .02
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Big :pimp:
 
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no dice. I wasn't a 100% to go down that road and surely didn't want to deal with the problems of things falling apart. Too many horror stories from other people of things disintegrating and things going to hell. Of course this was a deal breaker for her. At least there's always someone you can pay $300 to leave when you don't want to see her anymore. :wink2:
 
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Why would you ever want to move a woman in with you if you don't have to? Seriously. Living with a girlfriend seems like you'd have all of the disadvantages of marriage but without the long-term contract.

I've never done it, and I've always put it right out there to women I've dated that it's not an option.

Keep that pimp hand strong, dawg. Good call. :wink:
 
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Cautiously bumps for advice from his friends at BP...looks like Wade will be the next to try cohabitation. I know me and I don't like living with me...I can't imagine why she wants to live with me (other than the brown liquor collection) but that's her problem...she knows what she's getting herself into. Any other tips are greatly appreciated, although putting the house in my name is not an option because I already own a place and she qualifies for the Grants for Grads program.

This Saturday will be a complete and total contradiction...being a responsible member of society during the day as we've got appointments to look at four different places in the afternoon...followed by the 3rd Annual Santa Shuffle, which means Wade and about 25 other Santas will look like this as we crawl throughout the Short North, Arena District and Club 185:

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If you see us coming either get the hell out of the way or feel free to buy a Santa (or 20) a drink...
 
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