Moving in with Significant Other

[MolGenBuckeye]

make certain that at the end of the day you have the necessities firmly in your control. you have a roof over your head, you have power, you have heat, you have running water. make sure all of these things are in YOUR name. you can live without a phone and mcdonalds is just down the street.

Who says chivalry is dead? :p

 

[martinss01]

Who says chivalry is dead? :p

if chivalry is that which gives others the ability to make you homeless at the drop of a hat. you can keep your chivalry .

 

[buckeyegrad]

Living together first is definitely a go in my book. If you decide you can't stand any of those little things you just didn't realize about the other person before you get married and live together you are either stuck with someone you don't really like for the rest of your life or you are stuck with legal fees and having to separate bills, accounts, credit and stuff.

On the other hand, if the potential of all the little things you mention would cause you to love the person less, then you should really question whether or not you love the person enough to marry them in the first place.

My wife and I did not live together before marriage, and yes, there have been a lot of little surprises and there are things she does that drives me nuts (and I know I do a lot to annoy her as well). However, my love for her is greater than any accumulation of annoying habits could ever undermine.

 

[Thump]

However, my love for her is greater than any accumulation of annoying habits could ever undermine.

Pussy

 

[osugrad21]

and yes, there have been a lot of little surprises and there are things she does that drives me nuts

She won't try the strap-on eh?

 

[MililaniBuckeye]

yes.

think of it as leasing. your definitely locked into an agreement that will not be painless to get out of. but, its the easiest way to get her to clean your house.

helpful hints.
rent/mortgage - your name only
power - your name only
phone - not your name (or just use cell phones - my personal preference)
don't share credit cards
don't share any form of debt
cosign for NOTHING

im on my second live in gf. there are definite advantages and disadvantages. but the absolute most critical thing is to absolutely under NO circumstances share bills. either you pay 100% of a bill, or she pays 100% of a bill. do not cosign for anything ever for any reason. make sure the lease agreement/home is in YOUR NAME ONLY. it has nothing to do with women running up a phone bill or men being irresponsible with bills or either side being vindictive/hateful. its just that things have a tendancy to change. should either of you begin to feel differently about the other, your priorities will rapidly move away from any form of financial obligation shared between the two of you. make certain that at the end of the day you have the necessities firmly in your control. you have a roof over your head, you have power, you have heat, you have running water. make sure all of these things are in YOUR name. you can live without a phone and mcdonalds is just down the street.

Ding, ding, ding. We have a winner...

 

[Fungo Squiggly]

yes.

think of it as leasing. your definitely locked into an agreement that will not be painless to get out of. but, its the easiest way to get her to clean your house.

helpful hints.
rent/mortgage - your name only
power - your name only
phone - not your name (or just use cell phones - my personal preference)
don't share credit cards
don't share any form of debt
cosign for NOTHING

im on my second live in gf. there are definite advantages and disadvantages. but the absolute most critical thing is to absolutely under NO circumstances share bills. either you pay 100% of a bill, or she pays 100% of a bill. do not cosign for anything ever for any reason. make sure the lease agreement/home is in YOUR NAME ONLY. it has nothing to do with women running up a phone bill or men being irresponsible with bills or either side being vindictive/hateful. its just that things have a tendancy to change. should either of you begin to feel differently about the other, your priorities will rapidly move away from any form of financial obligation shared between the two of you. make certain that at the end of the day you have the necessities firmly in your control. you have a roof over your head, you have power, you have heat, you have running water. make sure all of these things are in YOUR name. you can live without a phone and mcdonalds is just down the street.

I recommend doing all these things, even if you have married her. I sleep much better knowing that I can change the locks the next morning and throw all of her shit out the window into the front lawn if she pisses me off. :p

 

[PlanetFrnd]

The special ladyfriend and I ended nearly 2 years of long distance by moving in together and its been very good. All of the financial things are still seperate and she pays her portion of the rent to me (I paid it in full in order to avoid approval hassle). The only downside is/was convincing the families that its a good idea.

 

[Taosman]

On occassion you may encounter a women who thinks everything should be shared right away. I suggest you break it off. Otherwise it could be a very costly mistake to give in to the whining.
And there is always the mother-in-law from Hell or relative from Hell.
That could be a life time commitment also. I didn't know at the time I was getting the monster-in-law from Hell. Might have had second thoughts about it.

 

[LadyBuckeye]

On occassion you may encounter a women who thinks everything should be shared right away. I suggest you break it off. Otherwise it could be a very costly mistake to give in to the whining.
And there is always the mother-in-law from Hell or relative from Hell.
That could be a life time commitment also. I didn't know at the time I was getting the monster-in-law from Hell. Might have had second thoughts about it.

I take it you and your wife's mother are very close.

 

[NFBuck]

Cohabitation isn't all bad, it's the nagging about staying up until 6 am playing xbox and the twenty empty beer cans lined up in front of you that gets old.

 

[Taosman]

I take it you and your wife's mother are very close.

After she asked me if I was surfing chat rooms, trying to pick up 14 year old girls, it started really goin down hill! Now, she's so bad, my wife can't stand her for more than 4 days straight. :tongue2: What a hag!

 

[Gatorubet]

After she asked me if I was surfing chat rooms, trying to pick up 14 year old girls, it started really goin down hill! Now, she's so bad, my wife can't stand her for more than 4 days straight. :tongue2: What a hag!

Yeah! Tell her to use her own damn computer!!

 

[CCI]

Disaster waiting to happen or good proving grounds for a relationships future when the couple isn't married?

It's worked out for me and LadyB. You both have to try to please one another in a;; ways. Very important to consider ones feelings, be repectfull, and let eachother have their own space.

Try it, What do you got to lose? At least you get

 

[Saw31]

Make sure you have a large, private back yard and a shovel, just in case...