Respectfully disagree Jeff. If that were the case, the sudden appearance of a long lost father of a raised-by-his-single-mother 5 star athlete could ruin the athlete's career just by the father trying to cash in influence by soliciting money - even for a kid with no knowledge of the dad's scam.
If the kid decides to go to a school that his parent does not want him to go, a vindictive parent could end the entire career by asking for money from that or any other school. And what is the limit of the contacts? The penumbra of the entire extended family? Their minister? Teacher? Cousins? What if they were raised by non-family - could the non-family care-giver ask for money and be OK because of a lack of familial connection? If the Blind Side family raising the kid does nothing wrong, but the natural parent show up and ask for money to influence the choice, does that end a career?
It is really a complicated issue. The unfairness that would result from an automatic NCAA athletic career death penalty rule should give us pause to push for something as broad as that.