jc_ultimate
Jon's Roommate
So only the man should have to pay money? Is the man the only one who benifits from being married? I don't think it is a matter of people having a problem with paying money when they shoudl ahve to. I do know a couple of divorced people who pay child support and have no problem doing so. However there are allot of cases out there of a guy having to pay money to a woman after a divorce and the kid is treated horribly by the mother. Or what about when the wife is the one that cheats? Should the ex hubby still have to pay alamony?
One thing I support is that the money goes into an account that can only be used for the actually care of the children. be it grocery, cloths, sports doctor bills etc. Not just a check that goes to the ex wife that she could use however she wants.
And as far as your little comment I have done plenty of research myself on this and can tell you that their are horror stories from both sides, of people getting screwed on both sides. Hell I was just reading an article the other day about how women have beniffitted the most from no fault divorce laws. But I am sure you wouldn't care about that since it doesn't agree with you.
When have I ever said that only men should always have to pay? Or that men are NEVER treated badly? Or that they NEVER get the short end of the stick in marriage law? If you look back at how this whole conversation started Thump said women have been cleaning out men for years, so I pointed out that I don't agree with that because of the past history of laws, and because of other ways that women face discrimination in our society currently.
I actually agree with your assessment of the Nick Lachey case, I just ignored it because you had to take a pointless jab at me before hand.
Furthermore, I actually WOULD like to read your article. I had never really thought much about divorce in particular as it relates to gender issues before this conversation started. The law review article was the first thing that came up when I searched for "divorce results." I read it and thought it had some interesting information, and had a thesis that was relevant to the discussion. I'm sure there ARE other articles/books/research out there that support your side that women are somehow reaping the benefits of divorce law, and I wouldn't mind seeing them to compare.
As far as your other questions, I haven't really thought through what types of marriage or divorce laws I would like to see carried out. However, I still stand by my position that started this whole conversation that saying that women have been cleaning out men for years is sexist and short-sighted. You yourself said that there are horror stories on both sides. I think that is all I ever wanted to point out.
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