Rich Rodriguez comforts grieving family, gives father, son their U-M moment
Ann Arbor --As Dave Page anticipated the birth of his first child, he could not help but envision a future full of
football Saturdays at Michigan Stadium, the two of them together cheering on a team that Page has forever loved since his father, David Sr., first started taking him to games.
Michigan football can fuel the parent-child bond, and even though Page didn't know if he and wife, Wendy, would welcome a son or daughter, plans were in place to make the trek from Jackson to Ann Arbor for home games.
"I've loved Michigan my entire life," said Page, 33. "It's something my dad and I shared together, the great experience of watching Michigan football."
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Baby David arrived April 13.
"When he was born, and before he was born, you always think that it's special to go to a
football game and have your son there," Page said.
"Just the experiences I had with my dad, that was something I thought about, how great would that be to take him to a Michigan game and have that Michigan experience."
The family, however, was immediately thrown into medical chaos.
David III was born with non-immune hydrops, a life-threatening disorder that essentially is a prenatal form of heart failure. He was sent to Mott Children's Hospital in Ann Arbor, not far from
Michigan Stadium.
On April 16, a Friday and a day before Michigan's spring football game, the team's final practice before August camp, Michigan coach
Rich Rodriguez and his wife, Rita, were at Mott Children's Hospital visiting sick children, as they often do. Michigan offensive linemen Perry Dorrestein and John Ferrara also were there that day.
Rodriguez was running late for practice, as he walked through the hallway of the pediatric intensive care unit.
Dave Page was wheeling his wife to their baby's room to say goodbye. David III was dying, his organs failing, and it was only a matter of hours before he would lose his battle.
Page passed Rodriguez, who was in the middle of a conversation, in the hallway of the intensive care unit.
"All I could think to say was, 'Go, Blue' because I had my mind on other things," Page said. "And (Rodriguez) stopped, had a big ol' smile and said, 'Go, Blue.' "
Page's father struck up a conversation with Rodriguez. They spoke about Jackson and Jackson-businessman Al Glick, a major donor to the Michigan football program. The baby's grandfather then told the coach about the family's situation.
"I listened and it was, 'Oh my goodness,'" Rodriguez said, his voice softening as he recalled the conversation.
'It was really touching'
The Pages were with little David when they were asked if they minded if Rodriguez, his wife, Dorrestein and Ferrara visited with them.
Dave Page, awash with emotion, knew this was the closest the two of them would ever get to sharing Michigan football. Rodriguez, late for practice, stayed with the Pages for nearly 15 minutes.
"To be honest, when he came in, I just broke down," Page said. "I just started bawling. It was really touching that he took the time to visit with us."
Rodriguez signed an "All in for Michigan" towel that he told David Sr. was worth $4 before he signed it and $1.50 afterward. They all posed for a photograph, and Rodriguez parted, saying little David would be in his prayers.
"I was humbled by that," Rodriguez, a father of two, said of the experience. "It was an emotional time, and it was emotional for us, too. It puts things in perspective real quick, and that struck a chord. To see that family at that time was remarkable.
"It was a tough experience. Sometimes you don't realize as a coach and as players that you can do so many things outside of the field that can be beneficial. They were terrific people."
For Page, it was a bittersweet meeting. The son he had planned to take to Michigan games was going to die in a few hours, but they were able to share one Michigan moment in his 3-day-old life. Page was moved by Rodriguez's empathy.
"With everything that's going on with the accusations and the
NCAA, a lot of Michigan fans aren't happy, and he just seemed like a really genuine guy," Page said. "I don't know if he doesn't come across as genuine to some people, but he came across as a genuine guy when I met him.
"More than change (my feelings about Rodriguez), it strengthens my thoughts on him. I've been one of the few that when things have being going bad, I've been in the middle. It has improved my overall outlook on him and how he handles the program and the kids."
'It meant a lot to me'
There are no instruction books on how to handle grief. Page found his way and went back to his Michigan "family," the Internet message board on GoBlueWolverine.com. He poured his soul into a message he wanted Michigan fans to read with the hopes of giving a glimpse into Rodriguez's impact that day and to give parents the simple reminder to appreciate what you have.
He was stunned by the response.
Page then shared his story via e-mail with Michigan athletic director Dave Brandon, who sent him a response.
"I thought to myself with what coach Rodriguez did for me and my family, I at least owe it to him to let Dave Brandon know that coach Rodriguez is out there doing these things," Page said. "That's what prompted me to do these things. Even though coach Rodriguez isn't necessarily doing great on the field, he still has big heart and it's nice to see that."
It has not been long since that day that David III was lost. Some days, Page said, are easier than others. His employer, Rehmann in Jackson, has given him time and space, and Page said he and his wife have relied on their families and faith.
"We have days we cry and other days we don't," he said. "It's just a day-to-day thing."
And Page always will have the memory of a special Michigan football moment with his son.
"I don't want to overstate it," he said. "But it meant a lot to me."