Lots of interesting stuff in this thread and I am glad I took the time to read most of it......
I was raised Lutheran by my mother, my father didn't attend much, but made sure we did attend church with her.
My wife was raised Catholic and it has been an interesting ride for the last 20 some odd years. We raised my daughter in the Catholic religion because it was very important to my wife and her family, which was fine with me. I do occasiionally pull my daughter aside and give her my insight to things. But, I have allowed her to make her own choice and that is what this is a personal choice based on as OCBW said her experiences. Is that any different than anything else in life?
What is difficult for me, is I believe in my own way,and not unlike OCBW not wanting to be peppered with believing, I don't feel I should be forced into believing in the same way as others. To me this really gets into the heart of the matter, which is organized religion, and man's interpretation of what they believe God laid down.
I was told that I had to learn how to take communion the "right way" when I looked at joining the Catholic church. Wow, talk about a turn off. I didn't realize that Jesus dictated who could take communion and how it worked beyond the body and the blood and believing in him. I didn't realize that only one religion new the "right way" to take communion. Seeing as I had already been through all the religious pomp and circumstance in the Lutheran Church, I said thanks but no thanks.
Getting to a lot of OCBW's questions...I would say stay strong (I know you do), only engage in what makes you comfortable and be frank with them on the fact that you don't wish to discuss things. I love debating and discussing religion and its role in history but I walk away from all family matters relative to beliefs when the discussions start happening..
They obviously know where you stand at this point in time and for them to pursue this course is disrespectful to you. Let them know, otherwise they will continue to pursue it. Make it clear that your house is just that, your house and that it is your safe haven for your beliefs not theirs.
Any wonder I love Monty Python's Life of Brian......