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Parent dying or dead?

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sandgk said:
Princeton - sorry to hear your dad has another bad health issue to face. All you can do I reckon is to keep up hopes and prayers for a favorable outcome from the surgery. A positive approach from the family members can only help him.
As others have said, make the most of this time in any case. Hearing this bad news reminds you (and us) that the time you have with your loved ones, though seemingly endless, is always finite.
Both my mom and dad are, sadly, no longer with us. But, don't dwell on that inevitable end, focus instead on the joy he brings to both his life, yours and others lives. (Even it is by being an ornery cuss and doing more than he should).
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Thanks sand!!!! I appreciate your comments and thoughts....

That is my problem....I can't look forward to the future of him NOT being here......
 
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Sorry to hear your news. I am new here, but two years ago this weekend my father who was 61 at the time comes to my sister's house and tells us he has cancer, but he has a few years to live, so me and my sister think oh thats not that bad....come to find out he only lived 7 more months he died, make sure you tell him you love him every day, dont be embarrased like I was, for the last 4 weeks of his life I spent every saturday night with including the one in the hospital when they said he wouldnt make it through the night I did not want him to die alone. I miss him everyday if I can be of any help let me know
 
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PrincetonBuckeye;806627; said:
Is your parent or parents dead or dying?



My dad the other day had info from his cardiologist that only 25% of heart is working.......He is a VERY STRONG man. (mentally)....he won't talk about death, but has to have an internal defibullator (in 2 weeks) too keep him alive....My problem is that I, myself, am not scared of death...but if I lose my dad I don't know what I'm going to do....He is only 62...I was looking forward to another 20 years of him but it looks like I might not see at Christmas....He is my hero!!!


As a medical professional I still don't know how to deal with this crap.....

If you remember he had a stroke in Jan....

What do I do?????
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just because your dad has an EF of 25% doesn't mean death is around the corner.

besides, he should be evaulated for a transplant if he's only 62

this thread is filled with so many medical inaccuracies it is frightening. hell, I'm drunk right now and I can see there is still hope.

What should you do???? Educate yourself about his illness. Talk to him about it. Go with him to his doctorb appointments. Stop asking for medical advice on a sports message board.
 
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Sorry to hear about your father, Princeton. Just spend as much time as you can with him, cherish every memory, and let him know every day that you love him.

As many on this board know, I lost my father to cancer when I was 17. It's been 14 years, but not a day goes by when I don't think of him and miss him so much. You learn to deal with it, but it's not easy. You have to stay strong. High school and college were not very fun for me, since he was sick since my freshman year of H.S. and then spent most of college grieving very heavily. Luckily, I had time to say goodbye, but I would give anything to have my dad back.

If you don't think you're going to deal well, go see a therapist (or grieving counselor). It really helps. My thoughts are with your family.
 
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OSUsushichic;806722; said:
Sorry to hear about your father, Princeton. Just spend as much time as you can with him, cherish every memory, and let him know every day that you love him.
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I was going to mention 3 things, and sushi put them all in that single sentence.

The only other thing I would add, which you may already be doing based on your avatar's new message, is to make sure you tell him that you're proud of his military service.
 
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I lost both parents before I was 30. One I never had the chance to say goodbye to and the other I did. I agree with Steve's comments about talking and listening. Of course, this should be done by everyone and not just when you think death is near. Death is not working on our schedule.
 
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BB73 said:
I was going to mention 3 things, and sushi put them all in that single sentence.

The only other thing I would add, which you may already be doing based on your avatar's new message, is to make sure you tell him that you're proud of his military service.
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Thanks Sushi and BB!!

I tell my dad all the time about his service in Vietnam, and how proud I am of him for it......he is such a hard ass but he likes to bring up the fact that my brother and I were in Iraq.....he is more proud of that but I think he knows that he is our hero...

The thing that is amazing is that my dad was a pilot for USAir, after he retired from the USAF.....He raised 2 boys by himself....I am a PA-C that went to Princeton and my brother is a CPA that graduated from Notre Dame.....And he is still on our asses to get better...I am the man I am today because of his aggressivness and dedication......

I spend every moment I can with him outside of work.....my wife is there all the time now....I will truely miss it when its gone....
 
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PrincetonBuckeye;806748; said:
my brother is a CPA that graduated from Notre Dame...
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I'm sorry to hear that. :p



In all seriousness...I'm not a religious person, but know that your father is in my thoughts. Though I've never met anyone from BP that I'm not related to, you all feel like friends. I can't give you any advice that everyone hear hasn't already given (and probably said it better than I could've anyway), but get everything you ever wanted to know about your father out there. Ask him any details you didn't know, or always wanted to. Just "get to know" him as much as possible while you can bro.
 
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BUCKYLE said:
I'm sorry to hear that. :p



In all seriousness...I'm not a religious person, but know that your father is in my thoughts. Though I've never met anyone from BP that I'm not related to, you all feel like friends. I can't give you any advice that everyone hear hasn't already given (and probably said it better than I could've anyway), but get everything you ever wanted to know about your father out there. Ask him any details you didn't know, or always wanted to. Just "get to know" him as much as possible while you can bro.
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Thanks Bucklye...:biggrin:

I rip on my brother too :wink:
 
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tibor75 said:
just because your dad has an EF of 25% doesn't mean death is around the corner.

besides, he should be evaulated for a transplant if he's only 62

this thread is filled with so many medical inaccuracies it is frightening. hell, I'm drunk right now and I can see there is still hope.

What should you do???? Educate yourself about his illness. Talk to him about it. Go with him to his doctorb appointments. Stop asking for medical advice on a sports message board.
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I am a true professional..If you knew my fathers' symptoms, then you would be a REAL MD............
 
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