It has been a rough week...

[Mike80]

To say the least...

My mother passed away early Tuesday morning at home. It was very unexpected and she had not been sick or anything. Mom was famously healthy in fact - she might get a cold now and again but she carefully managed her diet and exercise and all of that.

Mom was one who would always be so giving of her time, her knowledge and experience, her advice, everything. She was the one to pick us up if we were down, tell us we can do better if we were struggling and she always always always kept us on the right path.

She touched so many lives through her life - having everyone remember her to us about their interactions with her and seeing how much they are hurting too has been really touching. Last night was our local football league's powderpuff charity football game. They held a moment of silence for her and it really put a light on how much of a hole her passing has left.

If you take anything from this rambling missive take this: If you can, tell your mother and father that you love them. Don't take the ability to do so for granted.

I love you Mom.

 

[The KSB]

Your mom sounds like an amazing woman. I'm sorry for your loss.

 

[Bucklion]

So sorry man, I remember losing mine like it was yesterday.

 

[Fungo Squiggly]

Lost my mom 3 months ago, so thanks for ripping open those wounds. You fucking asshole.

But seriously, I'm so sorry -- there's really nothing that can really make it feel better. But it will get there in time. I compare the pain of the moment to something large in your rearview mirror -- the further away from it you get, the smaller it feels when you look at it. Sometimes, you'll take a wrong turn and end up near that object again and some of that pain will come back -- and that's okay. Or sometimes you just want to go visit it just to remember the good that she was, even if it brings pain with it. But just keep moving forward. Your mom wouldn't want to see you sit there and suffer.

Another consolation I've found is that this is how it's supposed to be. The alternative to me seeing my mom die is my mom seeing me die. And I would never in a million years wish that on her. Going through that might have killed her anyways.

Also, a friendly reminder for everybody else -- make sure your parents have wills, POAs, living wills, etc. You REALLY don't want to be going through this process without those. Trust me. It sucks.

 

[Jaxbuck]

Sorry for your loss my friend. Nothing I can say will make it any better but time will, eventually, do it’s thing. Hang in there.

 

[buckeyeintn]

I am truly sorry for your loss. Sounds like you had an amazing mother. Cherish her memories. The pain will never completely go away, but has been said it will lesson with time. I'll say a prayer for you and your family.

 

[ORD_Buckeye]

So sorry for you loss, Mike.

 

[AuTX Buckeye]

I am so very sorry for your loss Mike.

 

[Buckeyeskickbuttocks]

Sorry for your loss, Mike. Hang in there.

 

[Steve19]

Condolences, Mike. Always hard to lose a parent.

 

[AKAK]

Man. That sucks.

I've read this thread 3 times this afternoon, and that's all I got. It just sucks.

 

[jwinslow]

Hurting for you friend.

 

[gmen6981]

So sorry for your loss Mike. Though most of us here have never actually met, sometimes it feels as though we are really one big family, and we tend to share in each other's joys and sorrows. Just know that pretty much everyone here has you in their thoughts and prayers.

 

[zwem]

To say the least...

My mother passed away early Tuesday morning at home. It was very unexpected and she had not been sick or anything. Mom was famously healthy in fact - she might get a cold now and again but she carefully managed her diet and exercise and all of that.

Mom was one who would always be so giving of her time, her knowledge and experience, her advice, everything. She was the one to pick us up if we were down, tell us we can do better if we were struggling and she always always always kept us on the right path.

She touched so many lives through her life - having everyone remember her to us about their interactions with her and seeing how much they are hurting too has been really touching. Last night was our local football league's powderpuff charity football game. They held a moment of silence for her and it really put a light on how much of a hole her passing has left.

If you take anything from this rambling missive take this: If you can, tell your mother and father that you love them. Don't take the ability to do so for granted.

I love you Mom.

Sorry for your loss, Mike. That really sucks. It’s always the unexpected deaths from close loved ones that hurt the most. Hang in there!

 

[BB73]

Sorry for your loss. Continue to remember the good times.