Billy Donovan's Secret Sorrow
Thursday, January 13 2011 9:25 PM
Written by: Jason King
The text arrived two days after Halloween, well before Billy Donovan got to the cemetery.
"Thinking of you," it read.
For almost a decade, it's never failed. Every year, on Nov. 2, Arkansas coach John Pelphrey
along with Alabama's Anthony Grant - have reached out to their former boss at Florida. A phone
call, an e-mail, a card or text. Just something to remind Donovan how much they care. And how
they can relate.
"No staff," Grant says, "has ever experienced what we experienced. What happened with all of
us " I wouldn't wish that on anybody."
Long before they were all head coaches in the SEC -- long before they became competitors --
Donovan, Pelphrey and Grant helped Florida blossom into one of the country?s most-dominating
programs during the early and mid-2000s. Still, the moments the three of them remember the
most -- the three precise dates that spurred one of the strongest, most unique bonds in all of
sports -- have nothing to do with winning NCAA titles and conference championships.
Instead, they involve the loss of life, and the strengthening of friendship.
"The human body is amazing,"Pelphrey says. "We can all sense when those days are coming
closer."
November 2 for Donovan.
February 6 for Grant.
August 22 for Pelphrey.
"I let John know I was thinking about him at the end of the summer," Donovan says now. ?He
wrote back and said, "Tough, tough day. It never gets easier."
Donovan pauses.
"He's right," he says. "It doesn't."
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