Like every blue-chip high school athlete in the Land of 10,000 Lakes, Ra'Shede Hageman knows what everyone within these borders wants him to do. C'mon Ra'Shede, they say, please please please sign with the Gophers football team. The Minneapolis Washburn star, who is ranked among the top 10 senior tight ends in the nation, hears that mantra in the hallways at school, at the mall, at the gas station. Even in the most unexpected places, such as the football field.
During the Millers' season opener at Minneapolis Edison, a guy wearing a striped shirt and a whistle had a quick little chat with the 6-6, 260-pound Hageman.
"The ref told me I should go to Minnesota," Hageman said with a shrug of his wide shoulders.
This revelation came during a conversation after Thursday's practice, as the Millers gathered for their weekly team dinner in the school cafeteria. Hageman, who says the best things about football are the contact and the collisions, was in full-scale assault of a paper plate weighed down with pasta.
The next day was game day, and one of the guests at school was Gophers coach Tim Brewster. He was back on campus that evening, watching the Millers' 64-25 loss to Edina. As if Brewster needed any further convincing, Hageman displayed Saturday skills on a first-quarter play.
On third-and-4 from the Edina 35, quarterback Brandon King threw a dart to Hageman on the right hash at the 25. After catching the ball between the pair of 8's on his jersey, Hageman turned, rammed a shoulder into a tackler and buried him. Another defender closed in near the right sideline, but this time Hageman leaped over him, performed a tippy-toe step to stay inbounds and charged into the end zone.
It was the kind of play that makes onlookers exclaim, "Oh, my God!" Which, according to Edina coach Kim Nelson, is precisely how the Hornets reacted while watching film of Washburn and Hageman earlier in the week.
"He's got scary ability," Nelson said. "He's obviously got a big body with long arms, speed, catches the ball well, he can block; he's just got all the tools to be a great football player."
Here are some of the colleges that have offered scholarships to Hageman: Minnesota, Iowa, Iowa State, Wisconsin, Ohio State, Michigan State, Nebraska, Oklahoma, Florida and Illinois.
Here are the schools that remain on his whittled-down list: Minnesota, Wisconsin and Ohio State. He will take official visits to all three in the next month and will make a decision after the high school season ends.
This is rarefied air for any young athlete, of course, but it is especially remarkable, considering Hageman's early life. He and his brother Xavier, who is one year younger, were born in Lansing, Mich., to a troubled mother who was unable to provide consistent care. They lived in a dozen foster homes before being adopted by Eric Hageman and his wife, Jill Coyle, when the boys were 7 and 6.
Eric Hageman and Coyle, both lawyers, have since had three children of their own, all under the age of 7. Xavier, an aspiring hip-hop dancer, is a junior at the St. Paul Conservatory for Performing Artists.
"He and Ra'Shede couldn't be more different," said Eric Hageman, who played college football at Dartmouth. "We've got a dancer and a jock." Or, as Ra'Shede put it, "Xavier got the cuter side of the family."
As the cafeteria conversation returned to the brothers' upbringing, Ra'Shede said simply, "It was tough." He said most of the foster homes "were fine, but sometimes they didn't treat us right, so we'd go to a different foster home. ... Back then, nothing was permanent."
Now, however, Hageman's future is brighter than ever. And those wide shoulders are carrying the hopes of the rest of the Minneapolis City Conference. For decades, kids from the city were regulars on the Gophers' roster. But that hasn't been the case for more than 30 years.
That's one of the reasons so many people want Hageman to play for Minnesota.
"There are some fine athletes in the city, both in Minneapolis and St. Paul," said Washburn coach Peter Haugen, himself a Washburn grad. "Certainly the overall numbers and depth is not as strong as the suburbs, but in terms of some talented players, Minneapolis and St. Paul have some strong athletes."
Minneapolis Southwest coach Sean McMenomy, a former Gophers player, said, "You don't understand how much it means to kids to look at the hometowns on the Gophers roster and see 'Minneapolis, Minnesota.' "
If in a year or so that roster also includes the name of a certain wide-shouldered tight end from Washburn, well, that would make everyone in Minnesota happy. Including the referees.