Venting about Catholic Weddings

[osubro]

Sorry to be a problem, bubba. Think I'll go find a Catholic wedding to attend :-)

 

[cincibuck]

Au Contraire, mon fre're. The topic is about love, family, strong religious backgrounds and how to reconcile a desired religious based ceremony around inflexible demands by the keepers of the religion.

What osubro states is that for him religion is the driving force in decision making.

Big Woof asked for others to hear his problem and offer comments. osubro put the case for acceding to the demands of the Church, as in his opinion you either buy into the Church and its rules or you don't.

He adds that in his mind the Church is not Rome, but the faithful, but accepts that as long as Rome owns the building, the priests and the ceremony, they get to call the shots.

I don't agree with his decision making process, but then I'm not a Catholic. However, his analysis is right to the point- if you want a Catholic ceremony you have to plan around Rome's rules.

 

[osubro]

Thanks, cincibuck!

Au Contraire, mon fre're. The topic is about love, family, strong religious backgrounds and how to reconcile a desired religious based ceremony around inflexible demands by the keepers of the religion.

What osubro states is that for him religion is the driving force in decision making.

Big Woof asked for others to hear his problem and offer comments. osubro put the case for acceding to the demands of the Church, as in his opinion you either buy into the Church and its rules or you don't.

He adds that in his mind the Church is not Rome, but the faithful, but accepts that as long as Rome owns the building, the priests and the ceremony, they get to call the shots.

I don't agree with his decision making process, but then I'm not a Catholic. However, his analysis is right to the point- if you want a Catholic ceremony you have to plan around Rome's rules.

 

[buckeyegrad]

Au Contraire, mon fre're. The topic is about love, family, strong religious backgrounds and how to reconcile a desired religious based ceremony around inflexible demands by the keepers of the religion.

What osubro states is that for him religion is the driving force in decision making.

Big Woof asked for others to hear his problem and offer comments. osubro put the case for acceding to the demands of the Church, as in his opinion you either buy into the Church and its rules or you don't.

He adds that in his mind the Church is not Rome, but the faithful, but accepts that as long as Rome owns the building, the priests and the ceremony, they get to call the shots.

I don't agree with his decision making process, but then I'm not a Catholic. However, his analysis is right to the point- if you want a Catholic ceremony you have to plan around Rome's rules.

Common sense in a thread on this forum? We just might have to ban you.

 

[cincibuck]

Common sense in a thread on this forum? We just might have to ban you.

No one expects the Spanish Inquisition!

 

[Gatorubet]

1. Priests will not travel outside of the rectory or the chuch to perform the ceremony without the expresses consent of the Arch-Bishop of your city/region.
2. The Marriage Ceremony between two catholics must be a full mass. There is no option for a non-communial ceremony no matter the make up of your guests.
3. You must use Church approved musicians and singers (and pay church approved rates). Interested in lighting a unity candle as part of your ceremony? You must purchase them through the church (and each one is more expensive than a beer and a hotdog at Cowboy Stadium).
4. If you choose to decorate the church in flowers of your choosing, you must leave them as a gift to the church and used florists approved by the Archdiocese.
5. You must attend and pay for chuch approved marriage classes prior to your ceremony. I'm not as fired up about this one, I respect the planning and time it takes for the counselors to host these events.
6. Looking to have your event on a Saturday? You have two choice of times. 2:00-3:15 or 5:30-6:45. Doesn't work with the schedule of the reception? Sucks for you.
7. Of course, lets not forget the 900-1400 dollar fee for the ceremony.

A world full of starving actors and you can't find one to play a Catholic Priest for a few hours in a ceremony and location of your choosing?

 

[Brewtus]

I actually commend the Catholic Church for adhering to its traditions and customs. I don't agree with any of it, but I respect that they are consistent and will not waiver based on popular demands and what's trendy. I would think that someone who considers themself Catholic would embrace or at least accept the church's requirements for marriage and look forward to participating in all of the rituals. If you're hesitant about following their rules or feel that they're too burdensome, then maybe you should consider being married elsewhere. After all, it is your (and your fiance's) wedding and you shouldn't feel pressured to do anything that you're not 100% comfortable with (as I can tell you from personal experience that you'll regret it in the future).

 

[Jake]

I actually commend the Catholic Church for adhering to its traditions and customs. I don't agree with any of it, but I respect that they are consistent and will not waiver based on popular demands and what's trendy.

Well, sometimes a little flexibility can be a good thing.

"Anyone who attempts to construe a personal view of God which conflicts with Church dogma must be burned without pity." - Pope Innocent III