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I can't offer up any advice except for you to be a good father to your child. He is going to need it more than you can imagine. I watched what divorce does to a family, my wife's parents were in a situation like yours. Be civil, put petty squabbles between you and the soon to be ex aside. Do not let your kid see you two get into it, he will remember it...... Not to be blunt here man, but regardless of what happens you will be the person who the finger is pointed to. Don't dispute it, just swallow your pride and move on.
 
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CCI;1176457; said:
But if that makes him happy he should do that when and if he is ready.
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He wasn't ready before? He can do whatever he wants and whenever he wants....but, what's the point of marriage anyway?...supposed to be a lifelong committment?...it's not for everybody. Breakups are easier than divorces. What's the need for another marriage?
 
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Having gone through a similar situation in the relatively recent past, there is no advice. Every situation is different. You have to sit down and between you and your god and decide what the most important things in your life are and act accordingly, with your son in mind of course.
 
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ArtilleryBuck;1176476; said:
He wasn't ready before? He can do whatever he wants and whenever he wants....but, what's the point of marriage anyway?...supposed to be a lifelong committment?...it's not for everybody. Breakups are easier than divorces. What's the need for another marriage?
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oh I agree but like GL said there is alot of situations different. yaeh he isn't ready for another marriage, but what can we do but give the fella advice, he will do whatever he thinks is right for him at that time.
 
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CCI;1176484; said:
oh I agree but like GL said there is alot of situations different. yaeh he isn't ready for another marriage, but what can we do but give the fella advice, he will do whatever he thinks is right for him at that time.
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My advice to him was simply not to get married again. That advice was based on the fact that he had tried the marriage thing, and decided that there were things more important to him than that commitment. He can and will decide what is right for himself as he continues through life, but the advice was the advice I would give myself if I were in his shoes. Opinions vary.
 
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Thanks everybody, for the posts and PMs. I really appreciate it. Reading your words of encouragement, support and personal experiences helps a lot.

We both (so far) want to keep this as civil and even as possible. I really don't want to fight about anything, and neither does she. Hopefully we can keep that mindset as we dive into this.

Today I rented an apartment. Man, that felt weird.... It's a nice enough place, but I haven't lived in an apartment in a long time. Ugh..
 
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We both (so far) want to keep this as civil and even as possible. I really don't want to fight about anything, and neither does she. Hopefully we can keep that mindset as we dive into this.
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I hope for everyone involved it stays that way... Stay sharp man and do not drop your guard for a second though.
 
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