Weird Question That Freaked My Wife Out.

[BuckBackHome]

My wife's grandmother is not doing well at all and we are all planning a visit to see her in the next couple of weeks (She lives 700 miles away). She lives in the town where she was raised and has lived all of her life. Anyways, it brought up a question I felt I needed to ask my wife. I asked her where she wanted to be buried if she died suddenly.

The reason I asked was that we will be moving out of Michigan at some point in the next year or so. I did not know if she wanted to be buried here or what. She is now thinking hard about what to do. Her first response was "Do not bury me in Michigan!" (I love her!!!). She then tossed out cremation but is trying to figure out what is best. She did inform me that she would bury me in Ohio if need be (Mmm, she may have been putting thought into this already).

In my profession I have the ability to move every few years. I never thought about it until recently, but I have no idea where I want to be buried. I have not lived in OH for over a decade, will be moving out of MI soon, and who knows where I will be when I die. I know it will be more important to those I leave behind as to where my body or ashes will be, but the boys are too young to decide and my wife wants to know my wishes.

Well, I just wanted to throw that out there. We have wills, estate planning, power of attorney and all that good stuff, but have never figured out where the hell to lay our bodies. I'll let you guys know if I come up with something and I am sure you will have lots of good advice.

 

[wolfamngstsheep]

Go out like Hunter S. Thompson.


http://www.editorandpublisher.com/eandp/news/article_display.jsp?vnu_content_id=1000976945

Gonzo in Space: Hunter Thompson Gets Wish, Ashes to be Fired Out Of Cannon in August

By E&P Staff

Published: July 11, 2005 12:40 PM ET



NEW YORK

The long-awaited firing of gonzo writer Hunter S. Thompson's ashes into space from a cannon will take place August 20 from behind his home in Woody Creek, Colo., near Aspen.

Actor Johnny Depp has arranged the event through a Beverly Hills, Ca. "event planner," reports the Denver Post.

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Neighbors and family members have reportedly gone along with the idea, and the required official okays have been secured.

Depp has promised to make sure private security keeps the public out.
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[scooter1369]

I've told my wife to cremate me and spread my ashes in the All American Grove or on the beach in Daytona (my hometown). I want to be close to either the Buckeyes or the ocean.

 

[AJHawkfan]

My wife hates to discuss plans for death. I told her I didn't want to waste valuable real estate by being buried, so she should cremate me.

 

[kinch]

Just two weeks ago the same thing happened to us. My wife's brother called to see if we were willing to be in his and his wife's wills as the guardians of their three little boys if they die. That got us on the subject. . .

My wife grew up in a small town in Ohio. She left for California two weeks out of high school (and never looked back), came back to Columbus for a while to finish up college and go to Ohio State, (a little over a year in Cali.), then we moved to Boston for a few years, and have now lived in NYC for four years.

No clear place for a grave, or a stone. We both want to be cremated, but if we have a stone, or even a funeral, where would it be? She ABSOLUTELY did NOT want to talk about it.

For me it's easier (I grew up in Columbus). Even still, it is hard when you live you adult life elsewhere. . .

 

[LoKyBuckeye]

My wife and I both wanted to be cremated. It's easy for us to talk about... not sure why.

 

[kinch]

LoKy:

Are you going to get Tombstones or any kind of marker anywhere? That seems to be a hard part for us. That and where the funeral would be.

 

[CCI]

I really haven't put much thought into it, but I'll have plenty of life insurance from work and a policy that will bury me in a spot either near my mom wherever she deciedes to lay her body.

I want buried upside down so everyone can kiss my ass j/k

 

[NJ-Buckeye]

here's what we did... we bought plots back in Akron at Holy Cross... as 'Just In Case' .. if we decide different later, fine.... plots are much easier to sell than they are to buy... plus you can always move the remains... if you decide to do that later too

being Catholic, cremation was pretty much taboo... but they cremated my father-in-law and I will say, the funeral was immensely better than any I had ever been to before... vs the ol' catholic boo-hoo events with the full blown casket... so looks like cremation will be the road we'll travel...

I just happen to think the spouse is gonna order my cremation before I'm dead.. just to speed up the process and ensure I'm outta her hair!!!

 

[The KSB]

Both my wife and I are to be cremated. Our ashes are then to be mixed and poured into the Niagra River so that we can go over the falls together.

 

[RugbyBuck]

I like it, ksb.

I read recently that your ashes can be compressed into a synthetic diamond and then worn as jewelry by your loved one(s). It's a little Billy Bob Thornton/Angelina Jolie, but I still kind of like the idea.

 

[Buck Nasty]

I like it, ksb.

I read recently that your ashes can be compressed into a synthetic diamond and then worn as jewelry by your loved one(s). It's a little Billy Bob Thornton/Angelina Jolie, but I still kind of like the idea.

Then when you meet the next, next Mrs. Rugby she can say "oh thats a beautiful diamond earring"

"Thanks, its my wife"

 

[RugbyBuck]

Then when you meet the next, next Mrs. Rugby she can say "oh thats a beautiful diamond earring"

"Thanks, its my wife"

Brilliant!

 

[BuckBackHome]

Here is part of the issue for me. My dad died when I was little. He was buried in a cemetery three blocks from my house. I used to walk or ride my bike down on a regular basis. Call me weird, but I always felt better after I went there.

Now, I have no idea if my boys would ever have such a desire, but it was something that was comforting for me growing up.

 

[LoKyBuckeye]

LoKy:

Are you going to get Tombstones or any kind of marker anywhere? That seems to be a hard part for us. That and where the funeral would be.

nothing as of right now. I really don't want a funeral or anything. Maybe just a get togther of family and close friends. I want people to (hopefully) celebrate what I did in my life and not dwell on the fact that I'm dead and gone. Something like that is easy to say until it really happens but I don't want people crying over me when I'm gone even though I'm sure close family (wife, kids, siblings) will.