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Vegas...the triumphant return

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FKAGobucks877

FKAGobucks877

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I'm back, and I'm $1000 richer, mostly due to the fact I won a poker tournament. If I could only have stayed away from all the other shit, I'd have a lot more to show for it. Anyways, I had a blast, and so did my dad. I'm a little more worried about him now, as his energy level was pretty low, and he didn't feel very good the entire time. Overall, it was a great trip, and I now have a lot of new memories that I'll keep forever. I am facing a dilemma, however, and, as usual, figured I would obtain the invaluable advice of my internet chat buddies. Here goes...

While in Vegas, my father, who owns his own business, expressed his desire for me to come work for him sometime within the next five years. Without getting into detail, the position he has in mind is doing something that I have some experience with (although not a lot), and think I would enjoy immensely. Additionally, this is a company that my dad started over 20 years ago, and while both he and I believe I could contribute to the company in general, I know he also has a sincere desire to have this company eventually pass on to me, and keep the business in the family. Sounds great, right? I think so, too. The problem is, his company is in Mansfield. My in-laws just bought a house in Picktown about a mile from where I currently live. They moved here for us (and our little boy), and it would cause major problems if we moved, at least far away. On top of that, I am in a very secure position with my current company, and am on track to be an officer within the next five years.

It would seem that I don't need to answer right away, but again, my dad is currently going through chemo, and has (at most) a 50-50 shot at being alive in five years. This is something he would like to implement as soon as practicable so that the changes are in place, and the clients get to know me, before anything drastic happens (which, hopefully, it won't). Any thoughts? I really don't think I have a problem commuting up there every day, but won't really know until I've done it....and I don't want to commit now, then leave all the employees and clients in the lurch should I change my mind. Actually, if I changed my mind, I would still gut it out, because I wouldn't be able to go back on my word...the question is, do I give my word?
 
That's a tough call man. I don't know what to tell you.

Congrats on your winnings but I hope like any true Buckeye you put all of that money down on the Bucks to beat scUM while at the sportsbook!

Welcome home man.

I've missed your power-drunkedness! :biggrin:
 
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If you have time, take it. Talk to him and your family, even your in-laws *gasp*.
Mansfield isn't that far away, you could move halfway, into the middle of nowhere.
Still praying for your dad, hope he comes out of this OK.
 
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Buckeyeskickbuttocks said:
Can you split the difference a bit? MOve up to Delaware or something? Closer to Mansfield, but not so far from your inlaws?
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Personally, I think this is the best solution, should I take the chance...but I think anything further than 20 minutes or so away would be shitty for my in-laws. They asked us a billion times if we were content where we were, or if we were going to move, and all that other crap, before they finally settled on a house...and now they haven't even closed yet, and all the sudden I'm thinking about moving. It's rough. Think Westerville is close enough?
 
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FKAGobucks877 said:
Personally, I think this is the best solution, should I take the chance...but I think anything further than 20 minutes or so away would be shitty for my in-laws. They asked us a billion times if we were content where we were, or if we were going to move, and all that other crap, before they finally settled on a house...and now they haven't even closed yet, and all the sudden I'm thinking about moving. It's rough. Think Westerville is close enough?
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If they haven't closed, get on the horn with em quick and see if they're still hip.

Westerville would probably cut about ... what... 20 minutes off?
 
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People have a way of surprising you for the better. I almost always expect the worst out of people and am trying to break out of that. FKA, this gig with your dad (assuming that it's something you could/would want to do) is something I'd give up a lot to take. It also sounds like it would benefit YOUR future family which obviously includes their daughter and grandchildren. If so, your in-laws ought to be able to respect that. For what it is worth, I'd suggest giving them the opportunity to do the right thing or at least have their say. Don't make any decisions based on what you think they will think.
 
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Yeah, I'm planning on talking to them about it before deciding anything, it's just that the timing couldn't be worse. To be honest, their reaction won't count for much in my decision-making process, but my wife's thoughts will, and I've already discussed it with her. She understands both sides, and will support whatever I decide, but she'll feel pretty bad about it if we move. I wouldn't have a problem driving the hour and twenty minutes (each way) for a while, but would definitely eventually want to move up north, at least to something where I can avoid 270 traffic. My wife definitely doesn't want to leave Columbus, though, but I don't really either. It's just a tough call. The other thing is, it will thoroughly piss off my brothers, who are both in college right now, majoring in accounting with hopes that they can work for my dad when they graduate...but he wants to hand the reins to me, and I'm not an accountant, nor would I be. Still, almost everything is a secondary consideration when it comes to doing what my dad wants, especially when he's going through what he is.
 
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I think it all depends on if this really is something you would do if your father were not ill. When he passes on, you will still have to live with the legacy of driving to Mansfield and it sounds like some resentment in the family, so make sure this is what you really want to do. My father wanted me to join his business badly, but it was not what I wanted to do and it would have been a disaster if I had done so. FKA, remember you are living your own life, and must live your own life.

Having said that, having equity in a successful family business is a great thing. If you want to do this, it would be a tremendous opportunity. I agree with the others, be transparent with your wife and in-laws. Talk to them all and make the decision together, as a family.

Congrats on the wins by the way. I felt very good to walk away from Vegas $100 ahead the only time I was there.
 
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FKA, I'd take the opportunity to work with your Dad asap. It sounds as if you have the ability to earn a great living in your current position but the stability of owning your own business is the shizzle. No fear of relocation, termination and you can obtain goals not available while working for others. One goal I've recently focused on was growing the business to a point that would allow my 3 children (1.5, 8, 9yrs all boys) the opportunity to earn a good living in the same location as their parents. I've seen how tough it is for siblings to find good paying jobs in the same area unless you are in a large city. It would be great if I could see my grandchildren (wtf am I talking about I'm 37) often and be a big part of their lives. Keeping the families together geographically seems appealing....
 
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It seems, at this point, that a move all the way to Mansfield is out of the question. I don't really want to live there, and I know my wife doesn't, even outside of her parents being here. I would certainly assume that if we move somewhere like Westerville, everything would be good, and the only question that would remain would be whether or not I could hack the hour long drive to and from work everyday...and I think I could, although I'm smart enough to realize that I won't know for sure until I'm doing it. Still, it takes me 45 minutes now, and I'm only driving 20 miles...so I don't think it would be all that big of a change. Anyways, thanks for the input everybody, I sincerely appreciate it.

Oh, and to answer Steve's question, yes, I really do think I would enjoy the job, and be successful at it. My dad's company was started as an accounting practice, which is still its primary function, but other things have been added, which is where I come in. I've always known I could go work for my dad, but never really had the desire to be an accountant, so never pursued it. Now it looks like I could do something I enjoy, and feel I would be very successful doing, while eventually taking over the rest of the business as well. Impossible to say what will happen, though, especially with my dad going through what he is. Again, thanks to everyone.
 
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Since you're not in Accounting, would the brothers still be added in that department?

Current job or not, it's tough to beat being your own boss in an established business, especially one that you already know you would enjoy.

If that 1 hour drive was mainly on I-71, it wouldn't be very bad at all.

Good luck.
 
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