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3yards - Great idea! I definitely need to gather as much "data" on the subject as I can!

Nutty - So far, it appears that many of us were in the same boat in that we never had the talk given to us or it was attempted at such a late age that we already knew everything or were already at the stage of humping sofas like Sears.

Thanks for the input so far. I hope more chime in and it would be interesting if we have any females on the board to hear their perspective.
 
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I have no advice to add as my boys are 3 and 1 and I figure I will be having the talk with them before I want to. I was telling someone I figure I should do it two years earlier than I think they need it. I wouldn't mind picking up some pointers from some veterans as I know that day will be here soon.

I never had the talk either. They let one of our parish priests have the talk with us. There is nothing as beneficial from having a sex talk from a person who has taken a vow of celibacy. Kind of like taking driver's ed from Stevie Wonder.

My wife had the talk from her parents the night before our wedding. They thought it would be great if she spent the night at their house since the next day she would no longer be a "little girl." She was 27 and a nurse. I think she knew a little about the topics covered in the talk.
 
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Get any literature your Paster/Priest has to offer. Also alot of public libraries. Read it first so that you know what he will be reading, and then give it to him to read in private. Afterwards, talk WITH him about what he read, any questions he my have, and any questions he may have that was not in the literature.

Then give him this year's edition of Sports Ill. Swimsuit Issue (just joking there). :banger:
 
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My Mom sat down with me one day in 5th grade and we read "So That's How Babies Are Made" together. It's an old book by now (I'm 28), but it would still have pertinent info in it. You could also have him read "Forever" by Judy Blume. :biggrin:
 
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LOL Judy Blume - from what I remember hearing from the girls in Jr. High - her books would be an education :wink2:

BTW, we also had the 'How Babies are Made' book. It's got 'construction paper' illustrations of all the pertainant(sp?) details.

My father's 'talk' to me consisted of him telling me that it's okay if I wake up at night and am 'sticky' down there...man, was I embarrased!! He went on to say, if I had any questions, I could ask him. Needless to say, I passed on that. The neighbor kid told me 'everything' else.. :tongue2:

So, my advice is, don't open up with the 'sticky' line... :)
 
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I can't believe that it is almost 3 years ago since I first started this thread!
Kids grow up much too quickly! I find myself now facing "the talk" with my youngest which got me thinking about this old thread.

The talk went quite well with my oldest back almost 3 years ago. Mrs. Buckiprof found a neat book (don't remember the title hopefully she does) that had illustrations somewhere between cartoonish and medical bookish. While we read each page, saw the different anatomical parts, (I still remember us both laughing at epididymis, specifically the pronunciation part), and the build up which was done quite naturally, he noticed at the top of each page an equation that simply read Sperm + Egg = Baby. Anticipating what was coming on the next page (already read about sperm and egg on prior pages), I asked if he had any idea about the equation and how the sperm and egg joined. His response was one that I guess parents never forget... a nervous, yet excited wide-eyed, "No". We turned the page, talked and I went a little bit in detail.

Personally, not having this type of talk with my parents, what I finally realized is that there isn't, or shouldn't be, a single "The Talk". It is really a series of talks. I had talked to him at a young age about inappropriate touching, then later the basic differences between boys and girls, etc. So I viewed this as just another talk in a series. Believe me, 3 years ago he wasn't ready to hear about masturbation, STD's, oral sex, condoms, etc., it wouldn't have been the right time...he wasn't ready for all of that detail. Now he is ready to continue the series of talks just as my youngest gets ready to hear about sperm + egg = baby.

So for those who had indicated that they would be going through this in the future, has it happened yet? If not, I personally would view it as a talk in a series of talks, not as the talk.
 
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If you feel comfortable talking about everything, have at it. If not, I think it is o.k. to not go through all the logistics of intercourse. i think the more important thing is to express how special this bond is. I know when I give my speech, (a long time from now), it will center around how love should actually work, not how to knock up a girl.
 
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PrincessPeach;730672; said:
:lol: Yeah, Judy Blume was most of my education, too...
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It's funny 'cause it's true. :lol:

My mother gave me pamphlets - might have been something church-approved. She basically much just asked if I had questions and I said no. Talked a little... not much. She seemed to assume I had already picked up a fair amount from school, when I was actually still of the opinion that babies popped out of bellybuttons and in shock to learn otherwise.

On the other end of the spectrum, I once babysat for an expectant couple's four-year-old, who spent the whole time walking me through all the fairly graphic books her parents had given her and telling me all about penises and vaginae and what Daddy did to Mommy. That was a rather interesting evening... :lol: I'm glad her parents let me know about her current obsession ahead of time.
 
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