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Newsweek: The New Infidelity


My wife had the today show on this AM and they were discussing this.
One of the reasons given that more women cheat is that they are now entitled to half of everything in the marriage. It struck a nerve, painful, with me on many fronts.
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rugbybuck said:
I'm not sure I follow you. Wouldn't the fact that they are entitled to half act to inhibit cheating rather than being a reason for it?
Assuming the man is the primary breadwinner I would think it would remove a deterrent. 50 years ago if you were a woman and you cheated you were out on the street with nothing. Now you get to basically keep the lifestyle you have now (without having to work)... I see the argument.

This same thing should act as a deterrent for a man to cheat. If you do, you have to continue to support your ex-wife, etc.

I'm not sure it really works this way if the man was faithful though. He'll still have to pay for child support, but shouldn't be paying alimony. Who knows though... it wouldn't surprise me our society has lost it's common sense about stuff like this.
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I heard about this study as well. I may be naive, but whenever I hear someone tell me that either they or someone they know has cheated on their spouse, it blows me away. How could you do that?

This article describes these women and their affairs as if they're "neat" or "cool", and how clever they are to use e-mail and pagers to set up trysts with other guys. That's a bunch of fucking bullshit. These chicks are whores, and deserve to be divorced and out on their asses.

There is absolutely NO reason for cheating in a relationship, especially a marriage. If you don't like it, get out and then find someone else.

I was cheated on in college, and it hurt like hell. If my wife ever did that (and I firmly believe that she would not), I would get divorced in an instant- no explanations, no "I'm sorry", just get the hell out of my house.
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I agree-I am single, but if I get married it will be w/ someone who is a "soulmate" cheesy as that may sound. If you are inclined to sleep around-fine-just don't get married. That "people saw her as someone with more to offer than being a member of the PTA" line was the worst. Geez, someone wants to take an active role in their children's education, and that is cause for scorn-they aren't out there being trendy-that is crazy.
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DEBuckeye said:
There is absolutely NO reason for cheating in a relationship, especially a marriage. If you don't like it, get out and then find someone else.
EXACTLY! No one's willing to do that, but they can run around behind someone's back and then complain later about how bad it was until they believe themselves. The relative acceptance of these actions is further proof our moral fabric is unraveling faster and faster.
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That is exactly what I was trying to convey, these two authors are trying to glorify, and justify women cheating. They make is sound like they are becoming liberated for getting some strange. There was one line,

July 12 issue - When groups of women get together, especially if they're mothers and have been married for more than six or seven years, and especially if there's alcohol involved, the conversation is usually the same. They talk about the kids and work—how stressed they are, how busy and bone tired. They gripe about their husbands and, if they're being perfectly honest and the wine kicks in, they talk about the disappointments in their marriages. Not long ago, over lunch in Los Angeles, this conversation took a surprising turn, when Erin, who is in her early 40s and has been married for more than

Like if they don't admit that thier marriages are crappy then they aren't being honest??? I say "Bullshit". You cannot justify cheating buy blaming the man, like DE said if it is that bad then get out. Cheating is a cop out for a lack of commitment.
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