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Love vs. In Love

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Wow, big question that I don't know if I can answer without thinking about it more...but since you asked in a PM for my perspective, I'll give you what I can now. Its not a definition, but a great way to determine which one you are experiencing. If you can see the faults of a person, but still love the person in spite of them, then you love him/her. If you do not see any faults with the person, and love him/her because of this, you are in love.
 
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If I have time this evening, I'll pull out C.S. Lewis' The Four Loves. I remember him making a distinction between need-love and gift-love, as well as looking at the four forms of love as defined by the Greeks (storge, philia, eros, and agape) but I cannot remember which one he assigns to being in love--though I know it would not be agape.



"Love begins to be a demon the moment he begins to be a god." -C.S. Lewis
 
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buckeyegrad;773979; said:
four forms of love as defined by the Greeks (storge, philia, eros, and agape) but I cannot remember which one he assigns to being in love--though I know it would not be agape.
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As I recall, eros was lust and philia was brotherly love. By elimination, that would leave storge. Although I could be wrong. :)
 
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Bucky Katt;773985; said:
As I recall, eros was lust and philia was brotherly love. By elimination, that would leave storge. Although I could be wrong. :)
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A form of Greek 'brotherly' love, the word elimination, and Thump posting in the thread. Somehow I can't tie those things together. :tongue2:
 
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buckeyegrad;773979; said:
If I have time this evening, I'll pull out C.S. Lewis' The Four Loves. I remember him making a distinction between need-love and gift-love, as well as looking at the four forms of love as defined by the Greeks (storge, philia, eros, and agape) but I cannot remember which one he assigns to being in love--though I know it would not be agape.



"Love begins to be a demon the moment he begins to be a god." -C.S. Lewis
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Can you just do us a favor and turn in your hetero membership card at the nearest strip club?
 
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FCollinsBuckeye;774012; said:
It's because you have your head up your ass.

Or something like that.

:wink: :p
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Somebody read me FCB's post out loud. I can't see it.

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When you are "in love" with a woman, it means you are either getting laid morning, day, night, and afternoon, or you're kissing her ass and pretending to be a gentleman in an effort to get laid morning, day, night, and afternoon.

When you "love" a woman, it means you've accepted the fact that you're not going to get laid very often anymore.

This will be made clear to you one day when you're at the grocery store and your wife calls you on your cell phone to remind you that she needs frozen pizzas and tampons.
 
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Buckeyeskickbuttocks;773843; said:
I don't know that it can be put in words, really. To me, though, being in Love sounds like something that can be categorical.. or has a timeframe. Loving someone is more... absolute. I suppose it's like this... I love my kids. I am in love with my wife. My kids have my absolute love. My wife, however, has my conditional love. That is to say, and this shouldn't be a surprise to her (or anyone else), she can fuck up bad enough to make me not love her. My kids, on the other hand, will always have my love no matter what they do.

Conditional love (or, being in love), by the way, isnt comparative a "bad" or "lesser" thing.... it's more about the depth of the emotion and the "conditions" I mean some people's relationships survive pretty awful things... while others get divorsed at the drop of a hat...
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Very true. I'm in love with my wife, but I love the Buckeyes.

:lol:
 
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