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I am depressed...someone cheer me up

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Sounds like you definitely have a big bag of shit in your life (I'm not going to tell you to make something to drink out of that). Tomorrow is a whole new day and treat it as the one where you get yourself heading in the direction you want and you control. I'm not talking that all of a sudden everything is in order tomorrow, but make time and spend time figuring out how you will get to where you want to be (teacher and coach).

The first step may be contacting the career guidance counselor at Wright State or one of the previous schools you attended. Maybe it is talking to someone you trust and know will give you good advice instead of just feeding you what you want to hear. It could be going to a free clinic and asking about an appointment with a psychologist or psychiatrist. It also could be picking up some self-help books at the library. Whatever it is, do something toward your end goal.

Forget the girl who left you! I know it is easy to say, but she is out of your life for a reason and it is a good one. I was in a very serious relationship years ago and the girl dumped me out of nowhere. It took me almost a year to recover and then I met this cute girl that I have never let go.

Start with baby steps. Seriously. Focus on the good, and there is good, and build from there. Spend a little bit of each day working at that goal. Maybe it is building your credit back up or getting back in touch with old friends (some of those old friends you lost touch with might be wanting to get back in touch with you but don't know how). No matter what you do work at this consistently.

As was mentioned before, come here as much as you want. Chances are good someone here has encountered something similar to what you have.

Finally, ignore Tibor. He is just a character in Al Gore's World.

PS I can confirm michigan does suck. I've been here over a decade and it gets suckier every year! It may be the suckiest, suck suck state out there.
 
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BNJH,

My advice: Begin drinking heavily.

Seriously, go to a doctor, family doctor first, it may be something as simple as a chemical inbalance in your brain that can easily be fixed by medication.

Maybe your serotonin levels are low or something like that.
 
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You could be this douchebag:



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Let me get ths straight, you are 23 and depressed because you feel like a loser. You hate your job and feel like your prospects are dwindling. Does that about sum it up? If so let me give you a page out of my life. I grew up about as poor as possible. I worked from about the time I was 10 to help out the family. My Dad worked very long hours and I barely knew him growing up. I'm not complaining though, my Dad was the best Dad he could be. When I turned 18 there was no way I could go to college. I didn't want to stick around at home so I joined the Army. That was in 1989. It was the best thing I could do, I loved the Army (still do). I did 4 years and got out with the intentions of using my Army College Fund to get my degree. I did a semester but really didn't do all that great. When the chance came to go to apprentice under my father I jumped on it and dropped out of school. I worked with my Dad for about 5 years until he was daignosed and eventually died of cancer. After that I was lost. Without my dad around I grew to hate my work. Additionally I had to support my family, plus my Mom as well as my sister who was going through a rough spot. I felt trapped. I had no idea what to do about it. Eventually at the tender young age of 29 I went back to college. After three years of going to school full time, working full time, being a dad full time, and sleeping none of the time I graduated magna cum laude from Kent State with the goal of being a database administrator. That was three years ago. If you know anything about the IT market in Ohio three years ago you would know that I was fighting an uphill battle. There weren't many prospects for me that paid well enough. So I decided to try my hand at selling insurance. I did pretty good at it, I was making very good money but I hated it. I don't care what anyone tells you, insurance is a dirty business. At least on the sales side. I saw people doing thing that made me want to puke. I grew to hate being associated with those people. So after a long heart to heart with my wife I decided to go bach to the thing that I loved the most, The Army. About a year ago I enlisted into the Army and went through Officer Candidate School. I was branched Field Artillery and am currently stationed at Ft. Sill. I am about as happy as a man can be and it only took 34 years to get here.

I guess what I'm hoping you take out of this is that it's never too late to make a change. You are young, very young. You have a great deal of time to sort thing out. Be patient, persistant, learn from your mistakes, and make things happen. I know it's hard, trust me I know. But in the end you are capable of making great things happen.
 
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I don't want to go to a doc about it because I dont want to have to get medicine to cure something thats a ridiculous as this. I dunno...<!-- / message --><!-- sig -->
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Whats so embarrasing about going to a doc? It's not good to think everything wrong with you needs a prescription of some sort, but you shouldnt take the fact that you need help with something you can't control as a shot to your pride or strength.



I'm 20, and my family has a history of depression.

My mom has been on antidepressants for the last 4-5 years, and my brother has been depressed twice in the last 5 years.

I too was depressed for a short while in highschool. I didn't even understand why I was depressed at the time. I had no real reason to be that way except for perhaps I wasn't getting enough sleep and other things. But at the time I didn't realize the extent of my family history (my aunt I didn't know too well hung herself two years ago after battling bipolar disorder for many years), or what it felt like being depressed.


I'm not sure how you feel, but here is how I felt with it.

I would constantly be sleepy. During the day, all I wanted to do was go to sleep and ignore any problem or responsibility that came up. But even moreso, I was argueing and "in a bad mood" all the time. I figured I was just hungry or sleepy, so was naturally grumpy, but eventually it just wouldn't go away. For the first time in my life I felt angry. At one point, I actually felt somewhat aggressive for the first time in my life. Atop of that, nothing seemed good.


But in any case, I went on some antidepressants and in 5 months I was feeling normal. I never regret the decision, and don't wanna know where I woulda ended up had I not done that.








But as far as the rest of the crap that seems to be going on, just keep strong, be open to new opportunites, and don't let your depressed state get in the way of being ambitious. Perhaps you can start your own business, or find a different way to make money on the side?
 
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Do you blame an epileptic for taking meds for seizures?

Then you can't blame someone for taking meds for depression.

It's not a character flaw, it's something involving your brain's chemistry and wiring.
 
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I don't want to go to a doc about it because I dont want to have to get medicine to cure something thats a ridiculous as this. I dunno...
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It's not ridiculous at all, and it's normal to feel strange about taking medicine, but give it a chance. I have had several big bouts of depression, and a few years ago I started on some drugs to help. At first I was really against it because I thought it was stupid and I didn't want to consider myself that "messed up". After talking to someone (counselor) for a while, I decided to give it a try. It made a huge difference.

I don't know if medicine is the right thing for you, but you won't know unless you check it out. The important thing is, as many others have suggested, find someone to talk to. And I mean someone professional. Even if you're just going through a rough spot, they can help you deal with it. Hell, just spilling your guts about the problems sometimes helps.

You may feel hopeless, but you're not. It's just hard to see that through all of the crap.
 
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