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For you parents, did I overreact?

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BuckeyeNation27 said:
Um, it's just marker.
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Next time you have the buddies over for a party.. and one gets a little drunk and uses a permanent marker to write his name on your couch... you need to pat him on the head and say "that's OK... it's just marker"
 
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What the heck were you thinking by letting them stay up as long as they wanted? They're 10, they're more than happy to stay up until 1, then out go the lights. Just like Tressel say's " nothing good happens after (insert time)", especially 10 year old boys.

At first, I thought you weere going to say you caught them watching porn dvd's. I guess permanent marker is not so bad compared to that.

How did you end up cleaning off their faces?
 
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NJ-Buckeye said:
Note to myself... HIDE the markers when the BuckinBoys sleepover
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Don't worry, the boys will have whistles. You would be praying for markers instead of two maniacs with whistles. Actually, as long as you have popsicles you are safe.

We never used markers when we were kids. Of course, we never slept with sleepovers either. Summer ones were the worst for our parents. We lived on a quiet street, we would "sleep" downstairs, but we spent all night in the backyard or running up and down the block. This was back in the day when your parents had an air conditioner in their room and the side effect was it drowned out the noise.

The only time I remember planning any pranks on anyone sleeping was freshman year of high school. I was the first asleep and woke up with shaving cream and vaseline in the hair. The next guy wound up with a hand in warm water.
 
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Brutus1 said:
What the heck were you thinking by letting them stay up as long as they wanted? They're 10, they're more than happy to stay up until 1, then out go the lights. Just like Tressel say's " nothing good happens after (insert time)", especially 10 year old boys.

At first, I thought you weere going to say you caught them watching porn dvd's. I guess permanent marker is not so bad compared to that.

How did you end up cleaning off their faces?
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I dont know man, when I was 10, if we werent up all night it was a dissapointing sleep-over.
 
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strohs said:
I dont know man, when I was 10, if we werent up all night it was a dissapointing sleep-over.
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Agreed, it has always been our policy when my son has friends over that they can stay up as late as they want as long as they are quiet and not running around. I have raised my son to be very responsible and have taught him to self-discipline himself. This is the first time we have ever had any type of problems in the many many sleepovers that we have had. Also I refuse to believe that if you tell a group of six 10 year olds on a sleepover that they have to go to be at 1:00 that they will comply.
 
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When I was 10 there is no way I would be asleep at a sleepover by 1. I think you did the right thing by informing their parents of the situation and letting them handle the discipline accordingly. Boys are going to be boys and so things like this every so often but better this than running around on the streets and having something worse happen.

I refuse to think any 10 year old boy will listen to his paretns telling him to go to bed at 1 at a sleepover.
 
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scott91575 said:
Just my 2 cents.

For 10 year olds, you reacted appropriate. Kids at that age can be really sensitive.

Now if it happens when he is about 16, feel free just to laugh at your son. By then it's pretty funny. Of course, at that age, it probably involves alcohol...so you still may need to get angry. Once it happens after 18 it is total humor. Just hope he doesn't have friends like the ones I had in college. I was never a victim, but there are worse things that can be done with someone passed out (no, nothing illegal...just more creative and way more embarrasing).

Let's just say if this is the worst thing that happens consider yourself a lucky parent.
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Scott, if his kid is still having his male friends over for sleep-overs when he is 16, then HB33 has some real s*** to worry about! :)

I have never been a big fan of sleep-overs - especially when it's my kids at another kid's house - because there are so many irresponsible parents out there. My at-the-time 2nd grade son told us about being french-kissed by a 13 year old girl (the babysitter) when he stayed overnight at another kid's house. we have learned of many R rated movies he has seen (from ages 3 - 10) at other people's houses at sleep-overs. it's just too much of a headache unless you REALLY know the parents and can trust them.
Even though some of them won't go to sleep at all - i think it is a mistake to not have any rules about going to bed - other than "stay quiet". there has to be some kind of time limit, which you enforce, or you get what you deserve when something expensive is broken or somebody uses marker on your furniture (or kid).
Also, I WOULD have definitly called their parents at 5:15 AM, and told them to come and pick them up - NOW - because I would have laid down that groundrule at the beginning. At camps, we tell the kids "If you do something which warrants your expulsion from camp, and it happens at 2 AM, you can bet your butt that we are going to call your parents at 2 AM. Now you know your parents are not going to be thrilled about getting a call at 2 AM to come over here and pick you up, but I'm not worried because I know it's not me they will be taking it out on" - or something to that effect.
Hell, I always set limits, but then I also like to join in on the fun (another way fo knowing what's going on, too) but when it's time for light out, (1 OR 2 AM is certainly late enough for 10 year olds)that's it.

The other option is to let them camp out in a tent in the yard, and then lock the doors and sleep blissfully until morning's light.
 
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IMO, you did fine...

On a side note, I saw this happen to a guy in college...the best part of the whole thing was the guy doing the marking is dyslexic. In his drunken state, his dyslexia was apparent as he wrote so many backwards letters then tried to cross them out and rewrite them...

He ended up getting so embarrassed that he left the party...
 
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I think you handled this exceptionally well. I agree with others, you can't take responsibility for what the other parents do, but you also can't allow them to start a "magic marker" club every time there's a sleep over.

Also, don't forget. Parents have a responsibility to disapprove of kid's behavior because that's how kids know what is cool. If the crap is deep enough after, they won't repeat the bad behavior, but they will talk about it and laugh about it the rest of their lives.
 
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BuckeyeSoldier said:
I am gonna side with 27 on this one, I've done so much to sleeping friends and brothers its not even funny, shaving heads, toothpaste on face, markers, food supplies.. i dont even remember what else...
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I agree this stuff can and does happen, and likely will again with this kid and his friends...eventually. But these kids are only 10. That's what, 4th or 5th grade, tops? Two reasons I think this was handled well:

1. Because of the kids' age. You're talking about kids that are old enough to comprehend responsibility, but young enough to "forget" about it when having fun. The way this was handled teaches these young'uns a lesson about responsibility, and it's a good lesson to learn, and a great age at which to learn it.

2. For the simple fact that nothing major was done (in punishing the kids, I mean). While telling the kids they screwed up, all punishment was left to the actual kid's parents. You expressed your displeasure with them, but left any actual punishment to their parents. This way, the parents can't be pissed at you for punishing their kids, but the kids know full well that they screwed up. Best of both worlds, if you ask me.
 
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