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JoJaBuckeye

JoJaBuckeye

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We're going through a nightmare with my son-in-loser (married to my step-daughter) in our garage apartment. I don't need your gory details, but some advice, what you learned through the process, or some guidance might prove helpful to me. Consider your advice a possible "intervention."

There are two awesome grandchildren involved that inhibit my every instinct to kick this guy to the curb. Obviously my wife does not want to see her daughter or her grandchildren distressed.

I will edit this original post as needed to fill in the blanks for those who care to respond and want more details.

Background

They have lived there for 7 years, the youngest kid was born 4 years ago. In that time he has been living there and elsewhere, paying a voluntary amount of child support to the wife, and had an affair. They seem to be getting their marriage back together. No job...I think he's going to take a low level retail job. His last two jobs ended involuntarily. That's HRspeak for "he got his ass fired." No college. Not even sure he ever got his GED. Going on 30. Has been in jail twice (one a DUI and again on a DUI that was dropped to reckless driving due to botched police work). His abuse is limited, as far as I know, to being a condescending, know-it-all jerk who puts her down all the time. We are not and have never asked for rent per se, but only a nominal reimbursement of their utilities. In 7 years they may have paid 1 year's worth as requested.

I could crank out a list of minor complaints. Let's just say he does not grasp the concept of showing respect and decency to those he's most beholden to.
 
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Thump;745999; said:
Man, that's tough.

That's why you never rent to or do business with relatives.
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Boy...no xit. Last week I googled family and eviction.

I don't need to tell you what the number 1 piece of advice was.

Knowing what I know now, 7 years ago I would GLADLY have paid their rent to live 4 hours away.
 
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there are many possible scenarios that could make this guy less than admirable. I guess in order to help/give advice a little more info would be neccessary. Does he owe back rent for said apartment, is he lazy and doesn't want to work therefore not providing a stable income for your step-daughter and grandchildren. Does he do drugs? Is he abusive?

Seriously, a few more facts are in order in order to give sage advice.
 
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This is a radical solution, but if he caught you in bed with your step-daughter, that may make him want to move out. Of course, you might also get kicked out, so it's your call.
 
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scooter1369;746024; said:
Another even more drastic solution would be to put some moves on the leach-in-law.
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Ya know, we've encouraged her (while he was AWOL) to date around. She could have a much better mate. But she has this "he's the daddy of my children" fixation. And she really does seem to think they've turned a corner as a couple.
 
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Buck Nasty;746037; said:
hire a hooker/escort to come on to him. He will take care of the rest. and make sure the daughter is in a position to bust him.
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That's actually not a bad idea.

Joja, do you know of any "questionable" behavior he engages in?
 
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Thump;746040; said:
That's actually not a bad idea.

Joja, do you know of any "questionable" behavior he engages in?
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He had a squeeze on the side, but that's over with. He is just now getting over his alcohol issues. Ha...that reminds me...my sister told me to buy him a case of beer and let nature run its course!

The only thing he does now that gives me pause as to possible criminal behavior is that he steps out of the garage apt. to use the phone. Yes, I have already priced listening devices. The passive, legal ones.

Buck Nasty;746037; said:
hire a hooker/escort to come on to him. He will take care of the rest. and make sure the daughter is in a position to bust him.
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That's what my wife said, sort of...have chicks start hitting his myspace account.
 
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